Forget Fret

Worry is something you learn to do.

There is no such thing as a “born worrier.” It is a learned response to life.

“Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life” (Philippians 4:6–7 MSG)

You learned to worry from two sources:

1. You learned to worry from experience. After years of mistakes, failures, and unfulfilled expectations, you’ve discovered that things don’t always turn out right. Out of these experiences you formed the habit of worrying.

2. You learned to worry from examples. There are many models around you. Studies show that children usually pick up their parent’s worries. Anxious parents raise anxious kids.

Since worry is a learned response to life, it can be unlearned!

The starting point for overcoming worry is to realize it is useless. It does you no good to worry. It is “stewing without doing.” Worry has never changed anything. Worry cannot change the past. Worry cannot control the future. Worry only makes you miserable today.

Worry has never solved a problem, never paid a bill, and never cured an illness. It only paralyzes you so you can’t work on the solution. Worry is like racing a car when its engine is in neutral; it doesn’t get you anywhere, it just uses up gas.

The Bible teaches, “An anxious heart weighs a man down” (Proverbs 12:25 NIV).

On top of that, worry exaggerates the problem. It plays on your imagination. Have you ever noticed that when you worry about a problem it gets bigger? Every time you repeat if over and over in your mind you tend to add details, amplifying it so you feel worse.

What’s the solution? Instead of worrying, talk to God about what’s worrying you. He is someone who can do something about it.


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4 responses to “FORGET FRET”

  1. Gloria P. says :

    Hi Pastor A.
    It’s true that worry is a learned experience. I learned it from watching my parents as struggling farmers…. and from the experiences of my own life.
    I’m choosing to recognize the anxious feeling and then, out loud, tell God that I trust that he has the answer to whatever the situation that is facing me. Problems and challenges will always be a part of my life but I can change how I respond to them (with God’s help)
    Thank you for your blog and the great reminder.

  2. Rebecca says :

    Very Good blog Anthony..

    This is a very good reminder for me. Yes, I agree. Worry is a learned habit… It’s one of mine and I learned mine from my parents who always worried about money, food, etc., etc., etc. I am trying not to worry but instead to worship.. Because worry is a sin, I don’t want to be a worry wort forever, so that’s why I’m trying not to worry. And you’re so right when you say, worry gets you nowhere but deeper in the a car that stucks in the mud, and you’re forever revving the engine and burning the rubber trying to get out, and you go deeper and just end up spraying it all over.. So, I choose to practice worship over worry..I feel lighter when I can surrender it to the cross. It’ll take me time to finally remember not to worry, but I’ll get it. This isn’t scripture, but it works too. Don’t worry, be happy..Remember that song?? or:: why worry when you can worship??

  3. truecorylove says :

    Hello sweet pastor anthony… well… im sorry i havent written in so long…theres just alot of things that happend the last few months… that ended in my heart breaking trajedy with my mom passing away …ive been kinda keeping to myself the last few months…I did miss commenting on ur blog… so… here i am with all my love to put into it…

    As far as worrying goes pastor A… its the cause from ones self worry…and it can get so bad… !!! from my own experience… i think it was alot worse for me because of the things/ environment i grew up around…dont get me wrong i have beautiful memories from my child hood but alot of it was scary n just nothing any child should have to face…But ive come and learned to realize that, worrying doesent help anything it doesent make the situation any better despite what it may be. So i think and belive what can make one feel at peace the most is reliying your fears, worrys, and negative thoughts and pray and let those prayers rise to the beautiful light and road that god makes for us after. After one prays and the outcome of it…is just so peaceful, but only ; i feel if the person has faith that god although the outcome of there prayer may not always be how they want it, that god knows what is ment to be and everything happens for a reason.

    -Experiece- is definitly something worry can come from because i think one feels that after alot of prayers, and there wishes and prayers dont come true, they sadly loose faith and all they feel they have left over is to worry…It can become sort of an addiction to the point were on can become physically and emotionally sick.. I take full experience for this over the years pastor Anthony and alot of it im healing from and moving on from, because im trying to learn that its ok to feel at peace and free after worrying so many years…the situation is tough to explain but it revolves around my mom… I love her so much of course.. But as much as it brakes me to say it right now i know shes not in any pain anymore. Its an emotionally tough example and an emotionally still healing 9 in a half years experience…

    – As u say worrying can be unlearned??? Well to subtract 9in a half yrs of that is definitly a long road ahead but the difference now is my heart is more open minded, loving and trusting towards god.

    Worry i can definitly say leaves u miserable… it can destroy u emotionally best thing u can do is take things one day at a time and put ur ALL your faith, love and trust in god that he will point u down the right path but u have to try and trust in him.

    *Its like an anxious heart can never heal eather…* just like it weighs a man down

    Another scary part to it is that worry can mess with your head so much.. for many who have quite the imagination( no disrespect of course) But worry isint the worse thing for it. Worrying always makes the situation bigger as u said Pastor Anthony, it scares you more and for worrying so much alot of mistakes can come out of it. It always tends to give u more ideas that dont need to be in your mind or apart of your heart and soul..

    TRUST IN GOD LET YOUR PRAYERS RISE TO HIM…”He is strong and true as the rising sun, He is worthy of our prayers” LOVE HIM, BELIVE IN HIM..

    In conclusion: Pastor A.- THANK YOU… UR AMAIZING! LOVE N BLESSINGS!

    • anthonydoes says :

      so sorry to hear of your mom’s passing. I pray God lifts you up with mercy and grace during the time your heart heals. Again so sorry…

      By the ways welcome back… I did wonder where you might have gone to.

      May the Love & Life of Jesus surround you… P.A.

      A N T H O N Y J. D O E S

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